When you’re missing a loved one and grieving, the holiday season can be especially tough. The first holiday season after my husband died was an absolute disaster. It’s a constant reminder that they are no longer with you and the emotions can be overwhelming – sadness, depression, loneliness, fear, anxiety, confusion and exhaustion.
Can we just skip the season please?
Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah or Kwanzaa, this time is filled with remembrances of your loved one who is on your mind yet absent from your traditions and rituals. You may have people in your life who mean well but don’t understand what you are going through which adds more pressure. Your emotions are all over the place, you don’t know what you need and you don’t know how to help others help you. You’d like to just take a long nap and wake up in the new year but feel you are supposed to behave like you’re fine so you don’t disappoint anyone. But you can’t do that because you’re NOT fine.